The Reason For Bachelor Alum Trista Sutter’s Disappearance Allegedly Confirmed After Her Husband’s Social Media Post Raised Concern

Trista Sutter talks to Joey Graziadei on The Bachelor.
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The Bachelorette Season 1 contestant Ryan Sutter caused quite a bit of concern amongst fans last month, when he posted a social media message to his wife Trista Sutter that made it pretty clear the two were not in communication. The Bachelor Nation alum herself had to reassure fans that all was well when she returned to social media, and as she played it coy about why exactly she’d been off the grid, speculation began to circulate that she was off filming another reality show. That has allegedly now been confirmed. Let’s break down the whole crazy situation. 

Trista Sutter Will Reportedly Appear On Special Forces: World’s Toughest Test 

America first met Trista Rehn on the first season of The Bachelor, way back in 2002. She went on to star in the first season of The Bachelorette, ultimately marrying contestant Ryan Sutter, and she has remained one of the dating franchise’s most famous contestants. Trista served as a mentor of sorts to Gerry Turner on The Golden Bachelor, and she hosts the Bachelor-centric podcast Almost Famous OGs. TMZ reports that she was furthering her name in the reality TV space by filming Season 3 of Fox’s Special Forces: World’s Toughest Test.

Bachelor Nation has previously been successful on the Fox competition series, which takes celebrities and puts them through grueling physical and psychological challenges similar to the tests soldiers go through in the military’s selection process. Hannah Brown was one of the winners of Special Forces’ first season, with Tyler Cameron and Nick Viall each making it to the end of Season 2.

While Trista Sutter’s involvement — or any of the Season 3 cast — remains unconfirmed, if this is true, it will be interesting to see if she can continue The Bachelor franchise’s domination. 

Ryan Sutter Sparked Concern With Emotional Instagram Post 

Ryan Sutter got the attention of Bachelor Nation with an Instagram tribute to his wife on May 17, in which he said he missed her and longed to talk to her. You can read his words for yourself below: 

I really wish I could talk to you. Ask you how you’re doing? How was your day. I’d really like to hear your voice - just for a minute. So many times I’ve called without much to say, not realizing how lucky I was or how much I’d miss the opportunity if it were gone. I want to know how you’re doing. I want to support and encourage and cheer you on. I want to be there for you. But I can’t. And that’s ok cause I know you need this time - time to discover yourself again. So I’ll be here for you instead. I’ll be here when you get back. I’ll be here to listen to you, to smile with you, maybe cry with you - I’ll be here to love you… I’ll be here… forever.

His followers commented that he made it sound like Trista Sutter had died, with others asking if the two had separated. Ryan attempted to clarify soon after that neither Trista nor their marriage was in danger, but he remained cryptic, as he explained that she was “unaccessible” to her family in another post, writing:  

Trista is fine. We are fine. We’re great. Trista is at a place in life where she is searching a bit. An opportunity presented itself that may help her on that quest. With her family’s support, she has taken it.

About a week later, Trista Sutter was able to confirm for herself that everything was, indeed, fine. 

Trista Sutter Joked About Rumors In Return To Social Media 

Trista Sutter poked a little bit of fun at the whole situation upon her return to Instagram a week after Ryan’s seemingly worrisome posts. Alongside a picture of the couple on the beach with her kids, Trista wrote a lengthy caption that kicked off with a lighthearted message to fans. She said: 

Geez people. Can’t a girl have a nervous breakdown/trial separation/midlife crisis/death/divorce in peace around here?! 😜🤣

However, she went on to get serious about her brief hiatus, renouncing the faction of Bachelor Nation “who’d rather focus on being critical and searching way too hard for darkness.” She also defended Ryan Sutter, pointing out that: “He doesn’t owe anyone any explanation or require permission to post what he wants to post and share what he wants to share.”

While some found the whole situation to be concerning, other fans immediately theorized that she was filming Special Forces: World’s Toughest Test Season 3, in part because her fellow Bachelorette Ali Fedotowsky Manno also disappeared from social media for the same amount of time. The Season 6 lead signed off of her Instagram on May 15 before returning 10 days later — the same day as Trista Sutter.

We’ll have to wait for Fox to confirm the cast of Special Forces Season 3 (expected to hit the 2024 TV schedule this fall) assuming it's real, I can’t wait to see how these two represent Bachelor Nation on the show. Either way, it’s good to know that Trista and Ryan Sutter’s love story remains a happy one. 

Heidi Venable
Content Producer

Heidi Venable is a Content Producer for CinemaBlend, a mom of two and a hard-core '90s kid. She started freelancing for CinemaBlend in 2020 and officially came on board in 2021. Her job entails writing news stories and TV reactions from some of her favorite prime-time shows like Grey's Anatomy and The Bachelor. She graduated from Louisiana Tech University with a degree in Journalism and worked in the newspaper industry for almost two decades in multiple roles including Sports Editor, Page Designer and Online Editor. Unprovoked, will quote Friends in any situation. Thrives on New Orleans Saints football, The West Wing and taco trucks.